Nearly 6 Years Now

The anniversary of my friend’s death in a car crash is looming at my home.

It’s a hard truth to swallow.

On May 1st she will have been dead 6 years.

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Incredible.

Not to you, those who didn’t know her but for sure for me and others who were lucky enough to.

It happens to also be my husband’s birthday. He turned 40 on the day she died.

Bittersweet, what do we celebrate life or think about death?

Her crash was deemed driver error. No one else was killed or hurt, thankfully, she was such a kind person that would have really hurt her to have done that.

I have missed her for nearly 6 years immensely.

I can not tell you how important it is to drive safely.

I was listening to quite a bit of Jose Gonzalez the Winter before she died. She’d come over on Tuesday’s before her acting class and we’d go running together. One time it was pouring and we still went. The two of us running up and down the Hollywood Hills, she’d shower and I would cook her some dinner before her class.

 

 

“Down The Line” was written by Gonzalez, Jose.

I see problems down the line

I know that Im right

There was a dirt upon your hands
Doing the same mistake twice
Making the same mistake twice

Come on over, don’t be so caught up
Its not about compromising

I see problems down the line
I know that Im right
I see darkness down the line
I know its hard to fight

But there was a dirt upon your hands
Youre doing the same mistake twice
Making the same mistake twice

Come on over, don’t be so caught up
Its all about compromising

I see problems down the line
I know that Im right

Dont let the darkness eat you up
Dont let the darkness eat you up
Dont let the darkness eat you up
Dont let the darkness eat you up

Dont let the darkness eat you up
Dont let the darkness eat you up
Dont let the darkness eat you up
Dont let the darkness eat you up

 

Read more:Jose Gonzalez – Down The Line Lyrics | MetroLyrics

Thanks For A Great Twitter Party

Thank you to all who joined my Fix The Toaster Twitter party on distracted driving.

Here are some tweets from the conversation.

 

Advocates For Safe Roads Workshop in Illinois

Fix The Toaster contributor David Little will be headed to Illinois this June to share his story about how he is now an advocate for safe driving.

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The HEARTS Network is hosting the Advocates for Safe Roads Workshop, a FREE 

2-day workshop for people who have been adversely affected by crashes involving teen or cell phone distracted drivers. At the workshop, attendees will develop the skills and resources needed to educate others and become an effective advocates on the issue.

Here is more information on the workshop:

Advocates for Safe Roads Workshop 

June 4-6, 2014

1121 Spring Lake Dr.

Itasca, IL 60143

Contact us to register

 

Thousands die each year in tragic crashes involving teen and cell phone distracted drivers. Those with loved ones involved in these crashes have powerful stories to tell.

 

The HEARTS Network is hosting the Advocates for Safe Roads Workshop, a FREE 

2-day workshop for people who have been adversely affected by crashes involving teen or cell phone distracted drivers. At the workshop, attendees will develop the skills and resources needed to educate others and become an effective advocates on the issue.

 

During this 2-day workshop, we strive to empower attendees and:

  • Create a nationwide group of survivor advocates who speak about teen and distracted driving in a unified voice
  • Enable team building and face-to-face connection with each other
  • Provide training on specific skills to better enable effective advocacy

 

Space is limited so register early!  There is no registration fee. Additional financial assistance may be available for those who qualify, please contact us for further details. Registration and assistance will be on a first-come, first-served basis.

 

To register, please contact:

Bernadette Smith

(630) 775-2246

bernadette.smith@nsc.org

 

 

 

 

 About HEARTS
HEARTS – Honoring Everyone Affected, Rallying The Survivors – is a nationwide community of families whose lives have been changed forever because of teen drivers,  distracted driving, prescription drug overdoses and incidences in the workplace.  Impacted families share their stories and engage in meaningful ways to educate and  influence others. HEARTS is a voice for victims, a forum for survivors and a catalyst for  improved safety.

Visit us here or join the network today.

 

What’s the World’s 8th Leading Cause of Death? Road transport.

What’s the world’s 8th leading cause of death? A top five ranked killer of women? AND the No.1 killer of young people aged 15 to 29? Road transport.

(Make Roads Safe)

Just re-read that again as I sit here drinking coffee and my littlest watches a Dora.

A reminder that my site with a strange name isn’t the strangest thing.

A lot of people are going to die and have already died in car crashes today. A lot of people die from disease and un-intentional injury daily but the difference and what should stand out about car crashes is that the majority of them are preventable. They don’t have to happen.

Just by not tailgating, not excessively speeding and/or not using your phone while you drive today you could save a life.

1,000 young people under the age of 25 die DAILY on the world’s roads.

(Make Roads Safe)

Zolkea Mandela, a mom who has become an activist for safer roads after her daughter was killed by a car.

Zolkea Mandela, a mom who has become an activist for safer roads after her daughter was killed by a car.

Tailgating & Let’s Make Some Bumper Stickers

Tailgating is my pet peeve.

 

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Today while driving South on the 2 in LA I was going 69MPH.  There were a lot of cars and I kept my 3 seconds between myself and the driver in front of me.

Some bee-yach I mean woman tailed me far too long.

I glanced around and noticed other people tailgating and appreciated those who did not.

I put my blinker on and when it was safe, I got over one lane.

I glanced at her, she could have been a grandma. I wanted bad things to happen to her. Just for a second, what I’m being honest.

It made me think of the hypocrisy we hold when it comes to what we mourn for and glorify in the news. Car crashes are called “accidents and tragedies” when really mostly they are preventable crashes.

Preventable if people choose to stop driving so horribly.

OK, reel me in.

Anyways, I want to come up with a few clever bumper stickers that promote safe driving.

Have any ideas you’d be willing to let me make into a bumper sticker and sell for a few dollars?

I won’t make that many and trust me there’s no money in the low order I’ll have made but if you are interested or have a good idea, leave your idea in the comment below.

Honestly, I just want to promote safe driving.

I hope that this starts to trend and I can stop blogging about this. But until then, bumper stickers. We have to try something. Last summer, FTT contributor and fabulous friend Shannon Noel of Mommy Tonk came up with PUT IT DOWN, the bumper sticker I currently have on my car, her car and my nanny’s car. But funny thing is, it holds us accountable.

So shoot me your idea!

Thanks.