Should Parents & Caregivers Be Allowed To Use Their Phones While Picking Up Their Kids

Picking up my kid is bittersweet.


Photo Credit: Psychology Today

Photo Credit: Psychology Today


We are fortunate to be able to walk to our oldest’ son’s school. About a mont ago I made a conscious decision to stop looking at my phone once I started seeing kids. You can read about that here.

Now what I see are just the tops of heads of most parents. All  of them staring at their phones. Well not all but too many of us. And I was doing it up until a month ago.

I think it’s corrosive towards our society. Not even saying hello to each other isn’t good for our souls.

But my opinion on that aside, what about using your phone while in the carpool lane? What do you think? Lots of little people being escorted to their cars.

I get it that you might get there early and your car many be parked and off. Is that OK?

Should there be a law that your car needs to be off while you wait in order to be on your phone?

I don’t know any statistics on fatalities regarding parents running over kids while on their phones in a carpool pick up line. So maybe that means it hasn’t happened.

I’d be curious to hear what you think.

Selfies At Stop Lights = Still Not Kosher

Selfies while driving make me yench.

Sometimes I’ll come across parents driving and snapping a family selfie. It’s obvious they are driving because behind them lies a highway with cars obviously moving. Taking a selfie while driving makes me want to yell at that person. To me it is the equivalent of letting a loved one just die of cancer, without a fight. Most people don’t do that. Most people seek treatment.

Kendall Jenner, the teenager who is a Kardashian, took a video of herself driving. Incredibly selfish and dangerous.

The problem with selfies at stop lights is that you are picking up your phone when you should not be.

Your brain is being diverted into thinking and looking at your phone and not paying attention to the road before you.

Moms and dads, STOP touching your phone while you drive.

Your kid doesn’t know if you are taking a selfie, calling someone or texting. They just see mom and dad using their phone while driving.

Car crashes are the #1 cause of death to young people.

Lead by example.

So no, to bring it back to the beginning, selfies at red lights are not kosher.

Waiting For Answers About the California Bus Crash

Yesterday a Fed Ex truck crossed over unto oncoming traffic and struck a bus. 10 people died.

Photo credit NY Times.

Photo credit NY Times.

We are all waiting to hear what happened.

I’m guessing, this is just a guess, excessive speed might have been a possibility but who knows.

It is a crash that has claimed headlines. Many crashes, scratch that, most don’t.

But when a lot of people die in on crash they do tend to make the headlines. It has to do with our monkey origins. We tend to be more afraid when a lot of us die at once.

So despite the fact that around 100 Americans die every single day on our roads we will focus on yesterday’s tragedy when 10 died.

It is tragic, it’s just also tragic we accept the high amount of deaths.

I will be curious to see what they say is the reason to the crash.

I can only hope we will sooner, rather then later, begin to make drastic changes to end the high amount of fatalities. It’s incredibly sad so many people had to die yesterday in a collision that possibly could have been prevented.

Drowsy Driving

Last night right before I went to bed I stumbled upon a young woman who lost her life in a car crash.

Marina Keegan was a recent Yale graduate when she was a passenger in the car with her boyfriend and they were in a crash.

Marina just had a book of essays published, post-humous.


On the cover stands a beautiful, young woman and in the book are her young thoughts and hopes.

She had a job lined up at the New Yorker. She had been President of the Yale College Democrats. She had so much going for her, it is tragic.

As always though I wanted to know what happened.

According to the Daily News:

Her dreams ended on a Massachusetts road on Saturday when her boyfriend, Michael Gocksch, lost control of his Lexus. The ride slammed into a guardrail, shot across the roadway, hit the opposite guardrail and rolled over twice, police said.

Read more:

I had to read a few articles. In one someone said her boyfriend “Lost control of the car.” One of my least favorite statements.

As if cars were “out of control.”

Finally, I just found what happened according to the Huffington Post:

State police said speed wasn’t a factor and both were wearing seatbelts. Keegan’s father has said Gocksch fell asleep at the wheel.


Michael Gocksch, the boyfriend of Marina.

Michael Gocksch, the boyfriend of Marina.

The reason this story is in the news now, despite her dying in 2012, is because her book was just published.

The headlines quickly skirt of her “tragic car accident.”

It is National Distracted Driver Awareness Month, why not mention that car crashes are the #1 cause of death to young people and MOST crashes are avoidable.

I recently wrote about the handful of recent Harvard grads who had died in road crashes.

I can only hope that somewhere at one of these institutions filled with our young, promising people, is someone who is passionate about road safety.

This is from her last essay:

“We can’t, we MUST not lose this sense of possibility because in the end, it’s all we have.”

Driving drowsy is yet another form of distracted driving.

The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration conservatively estimates that 100,000 police-reported crashes are the direct result of driver fatigue each year. This results in an estimated 1,550 deaths, 71,000 injuries, and $12.5 billion in monetary losses. These figures may be the tip of the iceberg, since currently it is difficult to attribute crashes to sleepiness.

For more drowsy driving statistics check click here.